Saturday, February 28, 2009

Decisions

Bob's funeral was held this morning. He is now resting in a most beautiful place beside his parents, very close to where he grew up. The sun shone warmly on all of us and we are certain it was arranged by Bob. We spent some enjoyable time with his family and friends after the service and then made our way down the highway to see Dad at the hospital.

Dad has dramatically worsened and the timing of our visit was perfect, as my sister-in-law and brother were there and we were able to talk with Dad's Dr. and make the decision to stop all efforts at medical improvement and start comfort care. At this point Dad's kidneys have ceased functioning, his lungs are fairly full of fluid, and he is very weak, sleeping most of the time, but he is very uncomfortable emotionally and physically. The comfort care will give him some peace so he can rest and pass without stress. We all were able to talk with Dad and he was his usual loving caring self thinking only of others. He spoke alone with LM and told him how sorry he was to hear about Bob. We went through the list of family members and loved ones and assured him of how much he is loved by all. He quoted my mother, saying "Everything will be alright."
There were a lot of tears.
This can only be a minute to minute thing. I plan to go back in the morning but will take the bad weather coming our way under advisement.

The day was full of synchronous moments, love, levity and sorrow, we are whole and will sally forth to take on tomorrow. It is what Bob and Dad would want. I cannot say that tears are not falling, that hearts do not feel broken, but we know the healing powers of love, prayers and positive thinking are sustaining us.

9 comments:

islaygirl said...

thinking of you ... xx

Beverly said...

I will be remembering you too. It is such a wonder that even as you go through sadness, knowing friends and family are there for you softens that pain.

mrspao said...

Hug x

Julie said...

Thoughts and prayers heading your way. I wish spring to bring you new growth, new life, and continued love and support.


J

Julie said...
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Jeff- in the Berkshires said...

Holding you closely in my thoughts.

One Woman's Journey said...
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One Woman's Journey said...

Marcia, tears in my eyes as I read your post. Continued prayers sent your way dear online friend.

amy in ct said...

please know that you are in my prayers....
amy