Thursday, April 21, 2011

Reality

Last night LM opened his home to a small group of Vanessa's core friends so that they could hear Vanessa's status from her cousin, Erica, who has been with Vanessa and her parents since she was medflighted to Boston Medical Center a week ago today after the car accident. Erica drove a long way to meet with us and brought a profoundly serious message, which she shared with a calm and loving presence. There were a lot of tears shed and John was deeply sobered by the news, as we all were. It will be a long time before any of us can see her, and her recovery is a day to day process. There was some relatively good news. It appears right now that there are no life threatening internal injuries. All injuries are to the head and brain. Many surgeries will be required and it will take a long time for her to be stable enough to endure a surgery. Most pressing is mending the jaw.
Needless to say, this has been all consuming and devastating to Vanessa's parents and to this point her mother has not left her side. Erica, a very wise and compassionate young woman, a mother to five, and most certainly an angel to Vanessa's family right now, brought us all a message from Vanessa's parents that we should stay positive, light a candle each day, love each other, and pray, and that she is looking forward to meeting with us all someday. Now I know how Vanessa became the wonderful young woman she is!! This is a strong and inspirational family.
It was heartening to hear that so many people are involved in events to help the family. These young people are truly connected and have already begun plans for silent auctions and other forms of fund raising, and another of Vanessa's friends is organizing a huge concert in May.
Also, there is amazing support at the hospital. I was very happy to know that Vanessa's mother is a devotee of meditation and breath work. She will be sustained.

Dear readers, I shared your kind thoughts, regards and prayers with Erica and she will relay them to Vanessa's parents today. Thank you!

5 comments:

judemiller1 said...

This poor family! I continue prayers for Vanessa's improvement and for John to be strong in all this.

Happy Days said...

I couldn't read it all the way through as I was starting to cry and I can't start. I know you know what I mean. I will finish when I get back and will light a candle from here....deb

Retired English Teacher said...

This is quite a net work of support. I do pray for Vanessa and for all of you.

One Woman's Journey said...

Continueing to pray for this family
How very sad...

Linda said...

This was indeed a sobering report. I'm glad there is a good network of support. It sounds like a very long road to recover but that's certainly better than the alternative.