Monday, November 12, 2012

Thing 1, Thing 2 and Storm 2

Posting delay here, due to much beyond my control.......

On election day, sister-in-law, Trish, was finally able to pick up kitten 2.  She had picked up the first of the Manx brothers from People for Cats in Falmouth last week but had to wait to get #2 until he was checked out by the vet.  Sounds like the brothers had a raucous reunion and there will be lots of running/chasing, rolling as these two grow up together.  We cannot wait to see them in person. 
The photo above shows them in Trish's lap after they crashed into sleep following a full evening of play.
Since I wrote the above, Kristi and I have been to see and play with Thing 1 and Thing 2 - due to constant motion I never got a photo!  They are so cute.

We are in the midst of another heavy storm, both weather wise and in our life. Winds have been howling and rain pouring for almost 24 hours now, but we are relieved not to be having the snow that is falling and creating a mess just inland from us.
Storm has passed, a few trees down, but today it is nearly 70 and so beautiful!  A balm for our souls.

As I have written earlier here, we have been trying to encourage LM's very sick (COPD), and  multiple addictions) former wife, Ellen, and custodial parent of his 44 yr old developmentally disabled daughter, Kristi, to allow us to get her medical help. She has refused for a dangerously long time and in the past few months it has become a crisis.  We are very concerned about Kristi.  Effecting a change into this dynamic has become incumbent on us as the only near relatives.  We finally got an Elder Services physician to come in for an evaluation and it was ordered that she go to the ER immediately.  Still adamant refusal!  Yesterday, my LM had to go and forcefully make this happen.  He called the fire dept rescue and Ellen was taken to the hospital.  We are awaiting news on testing that was done yesterday.  Meanwhile, during the day yesterday, Kristi fell while bowling with her day program group, and broke her ankle.  LM had another trip to the ER.  Kristi is now in a cast and is at home with LM.  There is a lot to do as we try to navigate the deep dark waters of seeking a housing solution for Kristi as she cannot live alone. All this will take a lot of time, work and patience.

So here we are a few days later, Kristi has been moved in with her Dad, LM, and she is doing very well.  Testing has revealed that Ellen has a cancerous mass in her left groin area, and possibly in her breast.  We are facing many challenges and a very stubborn Ellen, who is battling us at every turn.  Today she was told she must go to a rehab facility and that did not go over well.  LM is being so strong, but I know he is facing some very painful  decisions. Meanwhile, Kristi is going to stay safely in the care of her Dad with me offering as much back-up as possible. 
So, it may be quiet around here as we face the changes this has brought in our life.  
I am watching a very human experience happen to people I love dearly.  Ellen is making this process as difficult as any one human being can do.  We are steadfast that our primary goal is Kristi's protection. At this point her mother is determined to just be home and have Kristi care for her. It is not going to happen.  

Onward and upward we go!!

Love to all.

7 comments:

Retired English Teacher said...

Wow, that is a lot to be dealing with. I am thankful LM was able to get control of the part of the situation that impacts his daughter. These situations are so difficult. I admire LM's fortitude and caring nature. I appreciate that he did all that he could do for the one who needed help. In the meantime, the one who is refusing help has been helped also. If only she would realize that.

Take care, all of you.

Happy Days said...

It's just hard to imagine all that has happened in such a short period time. I hope that LM is able to find Kristi a nice place to live. I know that can be time consuming and hard to do. Such a shame that Ellen is unwilling to help herself. She has to be having pain with the large tumor. And on a happier note the boys are so cute!! Can't wait for more photos when they are less active....maybe even asleep!! ...debbie

judemiller1 said...

My favorite words--Onward and upward--because, basically, there is no other way!!! Prayers for you and LM, my Dear. Steady on!!

One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods. said...

Lm is very lucky to have you...

One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods. said...

LM is so very lucky to have you...

linda eller said...

I happened on your blog today and was immediately drawn because of Ms. Graysea. She is beautiful and I have always been very partial to grey kitties. I live in Tennessee but have been to your part of the country and it is lovely. Hope you wont mind if I follow your blogs. Take care.

Cape Cod Kitty said...

Thanks everyone. We are slowly making progress. I will write more soon.

Linda....welcome and I am glad you found us! I love gray kitties, too and our family seems to have a lot. The kittens you see in this post belong to my brother and family.
Ms G is the queen of her own domain!
Feel free to go back through the archives and catch up with our story.
Look forward to hearing from you again.